If “YES” then this post is for you!
If “NO” then please share this post with all your friends who do and move on to something else!
If you do have a hard time saying “No” may I ask you a couple of questions?
- When you are asked to do something for someone do you almost always instantly say “Yes?”
- And then within minutes (sometime seconds) do you ask yourself “Why did I commit to that when I am already way overloaded?”
If you almost always say “Yes” it is most likely that you have developed a “Knee-Jerk” response of saying “Yes” whenever asked to do something!
Truth is – it would be almost impossible for you to instantly change your “Knee-Jerk” responses from “Yes” to “No.”
So would you like a couple of questions that you can begin to immediately use that will allow you to become more thoughtful at when to say “Yes” or when to say “No?”
Two insightful questions:
- Can you please tell me more? Sometimes just hearing more of the details of the request will give you more time to consider and if necessary to craft a very diplomatic “No.”
- Can you please give me a day (a few minutes/an hour/a week) to give your request the careful consideration it deserves?
Observation: Neither of the two questions above requires you to say “No.” And in fact a day later you can still say “YES!” to any request you want to help with.
The value of the two questions is that they both buy you time to make a wiser decision and then when necessary the time to craft a thoughtful “No” response! For example: “I am honored that you thought of me. If I had the time this is something I would enjoy doing and especially for you. However as I have given careful consideration to all of the things already on my plate I must regretfully decline.” (You get the idea)
My life-long mentor Bobb Biehl says “Wisdom is placing Process between Opportunity and Decision.”